Ever wonder what's really going on inside a woman's mind? Today you're going to find out...
My friend James Bradley has been teaching men how to attract their ideal women since the year 2000, here's his website:
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Recently James interviewed a model called Sarah from San Diego to uncover what she looks for in guys, what's the one thing a guy could say to her on the street to get her to stop, and what tips
she'd give guys who want to know her better.
James found that even though she models part time, her real dream is to become an interior designer and have a boyfriend who's just as ambitious. She's also got a surprising reason why she'd prefer not to meet a guy in a bar or online ... read on!
"There's More to Life than Girls"
Interview with Sarah - 22, Model/Waitress/Student, California
James: Describe yourself. What do you do for a living? What kinds of things do you like to do to relax?
Sarah: I'm studying interior design part time and waitressing and modeling to pay the bills. To relax, I hang out with friends, go shopping, you know, the regular stuff.
James: Are you single or seeing anyone?
Sarah: I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago, so, yeah.... It's really weird being single again. The worst thing is getting hit on all the time. I mean, I'm a waitress, so I'm used to it, but I used to be able to go out with my boyfriend and have a good time without getting bothered by other guys. Now when I go out, it's like ... yuck. Get away from me.
James: What mistakes are these guys making?
Sarah: Just being too obvious about it, I guess. If I'm out with my friends, I kind of want to hang out with my friends. If a guy comes up to us, we know that he wants to hit on at least one of us. Otherwise, why would he come up?
James: So you would never give a guy who came up to you a chance?
Sarah: I'm not saying that. Obviously, if he's really cute, I'd at least say hello. I guess I'd rather just meet a guy in a normal place, like through friends or something. Like, I imagine that someday we're going to get married and everyone's going to be asking us how we met. I don't want to say we met in a bar!
James: So you'd rather you had a better story to tell.
Sarah: Exactly. Like, you know, our eyes met across a crowded room or something.
James: What about online dating?
Sarah: That would be worse! Could you imagine saying, "We met online"? I know it's more socially accepted these days, but I would personally feel uncomfortable admitting to anyone that I had my profile on a website. And a picture of me - definitely not. People pay to take pictures of me, so I'm not just going to be giving them away.
James: How did you meet your last boyfriend?
Sarah: Waitressing, actually. He and his friends used to come in every night at eleven o'clock and order breakfast. It was really weird. They always sat in the same place, so I got to know them pretty well.
James: Why did you break up? If you're okay about it...
Sarah: Oh, yeah, I'm fine. I felt like he wasn't really supporting me. Like, he'd make fun of what I wanted to do. He didn't think I'd ever get a job in interior design and that I was basically wasting my time. You should always support your boyfriend or girlfriend in what they want to do. He wanted me to basically be modeling fulltime, but he has no idea what it's like.
James: Did you feel like he was just dating you for your looks?
Sarah: Sometimes. He used to refer to me as "my girlfriend the model." I guess "my girlfriend the designer" didn't sound as good to him.
James: What are you looking for in a guy now?
Sarah: Someone who's funny and really interesting and romantic. My ex used to invite me over and then spend all of his time on the computer. I'm like, "I don't care about your computer. Let's do something." I see this with all my friends' boyfriends. They're more interested in getting pizza and a movie on Saturday night than doing something fun. They're like, "It will cost money." So what?
James: So you want someone who isn't boring.
Sarah: Yeah, for sure. Someone who actually has a life. That's the great thing with being at school because you're surrounded by people who have these goals. They're working to get somewhere. Compared with my ex-boyfriend and his friends, who just wanted to hang out and have enough money to spend on beer and their cars.
James: What would show you that a guy had a life?
Sarah: He'd be doing cool things. Like, I don't know, going to different places and have all these different people he knows. That's really attractive: when everyone knows your guy. I dated a guy once who was nicknamed the "Mayor" because everyone knew him. We'd go into, like, a grocery store, and people would be stopping him and saying, "What's up?" That was great.
Other things, I guess, would be that he was earning good money, because if you don't have a life you don't have money. I don't feel like I'm there yet, but once I'm an interior designer I'll have enough money for my own apartment and really awesome shoes.
Yeah, just doing more than sitting around with his buddies.
James: If a guy stopped you on the street right now, what's the one thing he could say to you to make you want to be with him?
Sarah: "You're hot, I want you"? Probably not. Not unless the guy was really good-looking. Usually, if a guy stopped me on the street, I'd either think that he needed help or that something was wrong with him, like he wanted money or something. Asking for directions is always good. Especially if it's somewhere close, like I could walk him there.
James: How long does it take for you to decide if you want to get to know someone further?
Sarah: Usually almost instantly. Sometimes my first impression is wrong, but it's more in terms of, "You're nice to talk to," rather than, "Oh my god, you're so hot." You can tell if a guy has a lot going for him right off the bat. Just stuff like the way he walks, you know, how he smiles, whether he works out.... What really annoys me are the guys who want to meet you, like, they'll think up some clever line like I'm supposed to give them a treat just for coming up to me. No clue that I'm a real person. Sometimes they'll even talk to my clothes, like I'm not even there. I'm saying "clothes," but you know what I mean. Come on, get a grip!
James: What tips would you give guys who want to get to know you better?
Sarah: Just treat me like a real person. Respect what I want to do. Don't try to get me into bed. Have a life of your own that's actually interesting. There's more to life than computers and music and cars, you know? Oh, and even girls. Yeah, there's more to life than girls. Once you get that, then come back to me.
*** Top 5 Tips to Remember ***
1. If you're dating a woman who makes money off her looks, you need to show her that you "get" her life better than she does. Women in high-profile industries, like modeling or acting, often feel like nobody understands what their life is like or how hard it is to be them. You do. Just check out Style's interview of Britney Spears in The Game. Once you show her that you not only "get" her but can even "read" her mind and tell her what she's feeling, she'll be putty in your hands.
Never give her the impression that what she does is unusual, high status, or affects you in any way. You're not dating her because she's a model or because she's an actress; you're dating her because she's interesting and she amuses you.
2. Become a regular. Not only does being a regular at a particular bar/coffee shop/cafe/restaurant automatically give you higher status, because the waitstaff will recognize you and give you preferential treatment, but it's a perfect opportunity to network. Especially in L.A., there are a lot of aspiring actresses/musicians/whatever who are putting in their time waiting tables until they make it big. Make their life easier by being the regular they look forward to seeing again.
3. Know people. People who are known by a lot of people are automatically considered higher status. It's just like the most popular guy in school - he was popular because everyone knew who he was or wanted to know him. Make the effort to get to know people, no matter how insignificant they might be. Remember their name and a few details about them, enough to ask about their kids or their job or the trip they just went on.
4. Be learning at least one new skill at all times. As much fun as surfing the net and playing Playstation are, they don't exactly scream "high-status male." Expand your interests and pick up at least one unique hobby. Learn the guitar. Try snowboarding. Up your snob factor with a class in wine appreciation, cooking, or even ballroom dancing. The idea isn't to brag about your interests; it's to expand your knowledge so that when you get invited to the slopes, order wine at a restaurant, or have to attend a black-tie event, you actually know what to do.
5. Give a girl something to talk about to her friends. As much as it may seem like a waste of time to think up creative dates or unusual ways to introduce yourself to a girl, choose something memorable over something practical every time. Women will think about things like how they're going to tell your children you met, even if you barely know one another. Give her experiences that she can relate to her friends, and, even if you end up breaking up, all her friends will want to date you.
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Free Advice on How to Get Your Ex Back
Are you looking for free advice on how to get your ex back? Well, you're in luck because you can definitely find a lot of it out there on the internet. Almost everyone has gone through a damaged relationship at one point or another and many are eager to share what they did to cope or win back their loved ones. Strategies differ from one person to the next and what works for someone else may not work for you. But there are some common factors that many experts agree on.
First of all, when you have broken up, you need to stay broken up for a while. This means as little contact as possible and of course, no begging, pleading and promising to make things better. Take some time off. It is what both of you need. If you do have to see each other because of unavoidable circumstances such as work or the kids, be friendly but do not get involved in any conversations that stray towards your past relationship.
Next, take this time off to focus on yourself. Stop thinking about your ex and how to win them back. Instead, think about how you can improve yourself both inside and out. If you've let yourself slide because of the relationship stresses, this is the time to put yourself back together. Make sure you are eating right and not drinking too much alcohol or abusing any other substances. You definitely want to be taking time out to exercise. Now that you are single, you have that time. Get involved in certain groups or volunteer programs. And make sure that you get out of the house with some friends every once in a while, even if you don't feel like it. Finally, getting enough sleep is crucial to your health. People who don't get enough tend to eat more and be overweight and look older.
What is the purpose of this type of free advice on how to get your ex back? It is all geared towards getting yourself back first. Chances are you've lost a little bit of that during your relationship struggles. Once you've re-established your self confidence and self esteem, you will be ready to once again approach your ex with the intention of getting back together. How long does it take? This also varies but generally you can tell when you're ready because getting him/her back will suddenly not seem so extremely urgent.
Then and only then should you try to make contact with your ex. Invite him or her for coffee or something that doesn't require too much time or commitment on either side. From here on is where the free advice on how to get your ex back will start to very again. But once you've gotten to this point, you may be able to rely on your own heart and new-found confidence to guide you through.
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First of all, when you have broken up, you need to stay broken up for a while. This means as little contact as possible and of course, no begging, pleading and promising to make things better. Take some time off. It is what both of you need. If you do have to see each other because of unavoidable circumstances such as work or the kids, be friendly but do not get involved in any conversations that stray towards your past relationship.
Next, take this time off to focus on yourself. Stop thinking about your ex and how to win them back. Instead, think about how you can improve yourself both inside and out. If you've let yourself slide because of the relationship stresses, this is the time to put yourself back together. Make sure you are eating right and not drinking too much alcohol or abusing any other substances. You definitely want to be taking time out to exercise. Now that you are single, you have that time. Get involved in certain groups or volunteer programs. And make sure that you get out of the house with some friends every once in a while, even if you don't feel like it. Finally, getting enough sleep is crucial to your health. People who don't get enough tend to eat more and be overweight and look older.
What is the purpose of this type of free advice on how to get your ex back? It is all geared towards getting yourself back first. Chances are you've lost a little bit of that during your relationship struggles. Once you've re-established your self confidence and self esteem, you will be ready to once again approach your ex with the intention of getting back together. How long does it take? This also varies but generally you can tell when you're ready because getting him/her back will suddenly not seem so extremely urgent.
Then and only then should you try to make contact with your ex. Invite him or her for coffee or something that doesn't require too much time or commitment on either side. From here on is where the free advice on how to get your ex back will start to very again. But once you've gotten to this point, you may be able to rely on your own heart and new-found confidence to guide you through.
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Tips To Getting Your Ex Back
Getting your ex back dominates the thoughts of many a man and woman.Perhaps you were the one to finish the relationship thinking that life was passing you by.
Having been in the nightmare that is the singles world, you have decided that your ex was fantastic and now you need to know how to get them back. Or maybe you were the one who was dumped but having had time to pull yourself together you are determined to teach your former partner the error of their ways.
Before you consider how to get your ex back in your life, you should be 100% sure that this is the outcome that you want. You are going to spend a lot of time and energy achieving this wish but it will be a waste of everyone's time if you are doing it solely for revenge.
This applies to those people that have been dumped so start dreaming of revenge and how it will make them feel better. One quote that I believe in is revenge is a dish best served cold. What it means is that you have to let your emotions, primarily your anger, cool off before taking any action.
What I believe the quote is trying to achieve is that by the time you have cooled down, you will forget about your ex and be putting your energies into meeting someone new.
But for those of us who have decided that our ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend was the ONE, here are some tips to try to getting your ex back.
1) Do not appear needy. Desperation is never an attractive quality. You will be far more successful in attracting your ex mate if you appear to be living your life to the full. Don't call or make contact with them. You will have sufficient mutual friends to be able to appear to be in the same location as your ex by accident.
2) Do not stalk your ex - again this is not the way forward. You want them to come back to you not have them report you to the police for stalking.
3) Always look your best. Wear their favorite clothes, hairstyle, makeup etc. Remember all those little details that used to drive them wild and use them to your advantage.
4) Do not try and make your ex jealous by dating someone else. This is juvenile behaviour. There is never an excuse for using another person in this way.
5) Try being direct. Men and women often have communication issues hence the best selling books such as "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" etc. So sometimes the best way to getting your ex back is just to tell them how you feel. Apart from a little pride, what do you have to lose?
If you are certain that getting your ex back in your life will make you happy, you need to pull out all the stops!
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Having been in the nightmare that is the singles world, you have decided that your ex was fantastic and now you need to know how to get them back. Or maybe you were the one who was dumped but having had time to pull yourself together you are determined to teach your former partner the error of their ways.
Before you consider how to get your ex back in your life, you should be 100% sure that this is the outcome that you want. You are going to spend a lot of time and energy achieving this wish but it will be a waste of everyone's time if you are doing it solely for revenge.
This applies to those people that have been dumped so start dreaming of revenge and how it will make them feel better. One quote that I believe in is revenge is a dish best served cold. What it means is that you have to let your emotions, primarily your anger, cool off before taking any action.
What I believe the quote is trying to achieve is that by the time you have cooled down, you will forget about your ex and be putting your energies into meeting someone new.
But for those of us who have decided that our ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend was the ONE, here are some tips to try to getting your ex back.
1) Do not appear needy. Desperation is never an attractive quality. You will be far more successful in attracting your ex mate if you appear to be living your life to the full. Don't call or make contact with them. You will have sufficient mutual friends to be able to appear to be in the same location as your ex by accident.
2) Do not stalk your ex - again this is not the way forward. You want them to come back to you not have them report you to the police for stalking.
3) Always look your best. Wear their favorite clothes, hairstyle, makeup etc. Remember all those little details that used to drive them wild and use them to your advantage.
4) Do not try and make your ex jealous by dating someone else. This is juvenile behaviour. There is never an excuse for using another person in this way.
5) Try being direct. Men and women often have communication issues hence the best selling books such as "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" etc. So sometimes the best way to getting your ex back is just to tell them how you feel. Apart from a little pride, what do you have to lose?
If you are certain that getting your ex back in your life will make you happy, you need to pull out all the stops!
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4 First Date Mistakes Men Make And How To Avoid Them
Mistake #1
Don't you know that if you bring chocolate or flowers
on a first date isn't the best idea - especially if you've just
met the lady! She's there to get to know YOU. Women are
always asking themselves "what does THAT mean?"
And in this case it's, "He bought me flowers because he likes
me, but he doesn't even know anything about
me yet! A little suspicious.
MISTAKE #2 -- BEING MR. SERIOUS
When in the presence of a potential date, men often
become boring, instead of keeping up the friendly
vibe they have with their friends. They won’t make
jokes or laugh with the woman, they won’t play
around like they do with their friends and they
generally take things a little too seriously. Why
do men change their behavior around women, often
without even realizing they’re doing it? Because
they fear losing their only chance with the girl of
their dreams, they try and play the safe side,
which results in a “Mr. Serious.”
MISTAKE #3 -- CONDUCTING AN INTERVIEW
When men become "Mr. Serious" they often fall into
"job interview conversation mode." Make sure you
reserve questions like, "So where do you work?" or
"How many brothers and sisters do you have?" for
the future, after you've already had a lot of fun
and made the sparks fly. Instead, talk about your
hobbies, interesting stories and fun stuff. Avoid
anything too deep for a long period of time. On a
first date, it can make things a little depressing.
Talk like you've known each other for years (as if
you don’t need to do the awkward 20-questions
quiz.) Of course you can ask basic questions, but
never make it the main focus of your date. Focus on
fun.
MISTAKE #4 -- BEING TOO NEEDY & DIRECT
Without realizing it, many guys turn their dates
off by trying a little too hard. For example: Men
will lean into a woman’s personal space, and ask,
"so do you like me?" or constantly change his
opinion to seek her approval and make her like him.
Big mistake. Ironically, it's leaning back, staying
cool and calm, being a little cheeky, interesting,
mysterious and comfortable with yourself that
actually gets a woman's attention and keeps her
interested.
About the author:
Oprah Expert Michael Webb is the author of 300
Creative Dates, a book jam-packed with unique ways
to help leave a great first impression without
breaking the bank! To learn more,Click Here
Don't you know that if you bring chocolate or flowers
on a first date isn't the best idea - especially if you've just
met the lady! She's there to get to know YOU. Women are
always asking themselves "what does THAT mean?"
And in this case it's, "He bought me flowers because he likes
me, but he doesn't even know anything about
me yet! A little suspicious.
MISTAKE #2 -- BEING MR. SERIOUS
When in the presence of a potential date, men often
become boring, instead of keeping up the friendly
vibe they have with their friends. They won’t make
jokes or laugh with the woman, they won’t play
around like they do with their friends and they
generally take things a little too seriously. Why
do men change their behavior around women, often
without even realizing they’re doing it? Because
they fear losing their only chance with the girl of
their dreams, they try and play the safe side,
which results in a “Mr. Serious.”
MISTAKE #3 -- CONDUCTING AN INTERVIEW
When men become "Mr. Serious" they often fall into
"job interview conversation mode." Make sure you
reserve questions like, "So where do you work?" or
"How many brothers and sisters do you have?" for
the future, after you've already had a lot of fun
and made the sparks fly. Instead, talk about your
hobbies, interesting stories and fun stuff. Avoid
anything too deep for a long period of time. On a
first date, it can make things a little depressing.
Talk like you've known each other for years (as if
you don’t need to do the awkward 20-questions
quiz.) Of course you can ask basic questions, but
never make it the main focus of your date. Focus on
fun.
MISTAKE #4 -- BEING TOO NEEDY & DIRECT
Without realizing it, many guys turn their dates
off by trying a little too hard. For example: Men
will lean into a woman’s personal space, and ask,
"so do you like me?" or constantly change his
opinion to seek her approval and make her like him.
Big mistake. Ironically, it's leaning back, staying
cool and calm, being a little cheeky, interesting,
mysterious and comfortable with yourself that
actually gets a woman's attention and keeps her
interested.
About the author:
Oprah Expert Michael Webb is the author of 300
Creative Dates, a book jam-packed with unique ways
to help leave a great first impression without
breaking the bank! To learn more,Click Here
Ways to determine if your ex still loves you
It is extremely difficult to love someone and they don’t show you love and affection in return. Oftentimes after the relationship has ended it is usually the woman who is still in love with her ex.
When you go the places that you both enjoyed together and hear songs that you danced to as a couple is enough to make you cry. It should be pointed out that although you my not be together at this point in time, it does not mean that you will never be together again.
I can assure that when you do get back together with your ex, it most likely will be a better and focused relationship. If you really love your ex and you see the future with him, then you should not give up hope of being back together in his arms.
There are many ways to determine if your ex-boyfriend still loves you and want you back. A few of the ways are outlined below
Firstly if you boyfriend suggests that you should remain friends rather than cut off all communication then there is a good chance that he still loves you and obviously still have feelings for you. Do not take worry too much about being friends, since if you are still friends makes, then it is really easy for the flame to ignite again.
One of the other ways to determine if he still “has the hots for you” is if he constantly calls, emails and communicates with you more than you anticipated. You know that you are back on track if he says that you both need to communicate more regularly.
When your boyfriend starts asking your best friends and family members about who you are dating, then he may be wondering if he is in with a chance. If he asks you directly, then tell him the truth about your availability. It may not be wise to get him jealous by pretending that you are involved with someone, when in fact you are not dating at all,this may just drive him away.For more information on how to get your ex back CLICK HERE
When you go the places that you both enjoyed together and hear songs that you danced to as a couple is enough to make you cry. It should be pointed out that although you my not be together at this point in time, it does not mean that you will never be together again.
I can assure that when you do get back together with your ex, it most likely will be a better and focused relationship. If you really love your ex and you see the future with him, then you should not give up hope of being back together in his arms.
There are many ways to determine if your ex-boyfriend still loves you and want you back. A few of the ways are outlined below
Firstly if you boyfriend suggests that you should remain friends rather than cut off all communication then there is a good chance that he still loves you and obviously still have feelings for you. Do not take worry too much about being friends, since if you are still friends makes, then it is really easy for the flame to ignite again.
One of the other ways to determine if he still “has the hots for you” is if he constantly calls, emails and communicates with you more than you anticipated. You know that you are back on track if he says that you both need to communicate more regularly.
When your boyfriend starts asking your best friends and family members about who you are dating, then he may be wondering if he is in with a chance. If he asks you directly, then tell him the truth about your availability. It may not be wise to get him jealous by pretending that you are involved with someone, when in fact you are not dating at all,this may just drive him away.For more information on how to get your ex back CLICK HERE
How to Seduce a Woman Using ‘Deflection Theory
There’s something that often happens when you’re out playing the ‘seduction game’ – that is, when you’re actively looking out for girls you think you’d like to hook-up with. Many men have experienced it, and many thousands of men still do experience it when they themselves are out playing the game. It usually goes something like this: you’re in a group, talking to a couple of girls. You’re with a friend or two, perhaps having drinks in a bar or at a party. You’ve got your eye on one girl in the group in particular and want to make something happen, make a bit of a connection. Thing is, she’s proving the hardest to connect to – sure, she smiles and talks to you nicely and politely, but she’s not returning your flirtatious gestures and comments much, if at all. It’s like she’s playing hard to get or something, whereas her female friends seem to be much more playful and flirty.
This doesn’t happen because you aren’t her type or just because sometimes these things happen (or don’t) – there’s a different, special reason the girl you’re interested in doesn’t appear to be interested in you and it’s got a lot to do with psychology and social standing. You see, when you show you’re interested in a good-looking girl who’s with her friends, you inadvertently bump up her ego and feeling of self-worth. She knows you’ve chosen and are most interested in her and likes this feeling of elevated importance. However, she also knows that if she reacts by becoming really flirty and obviously attracted to YOU, she’ll lose the higher social value she has over her friends (probably the reason you targeted her in the first place), so she therefore maintains her unattainable, “I’m a bit too good for you” status.
However, you can blow this problem out of the water by using DEFLECTION THEORY. You turn the situation on its head and reverse the psychology of your target female by deflecting your attention AWAY from her and ONTO one or more of her friends. When you show her friends (who have lower social value/worth than your target female) more attention and affection, you challenge her ego. So, in an effort to regain her superiority in the hierarchy of her circle of friends, the girl you’re really interested in will subconsciously invest much MORE interest in you by flirting and being playful. As so many women do, she gives into wanting what she feels she cannot have – and, of course, you’ll be happy to have her. She is, after all, the hottest of the group and the one you wanted in the first place. Here’s how to deflect your attention onto one of her friends to make her (the girl you want) feel as if her ego has been challenged and thus make her feel an instant and undeniable desire to get your attention and “win” you back.
1. Use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls. However, when you’re talking to your target female, occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls (who will probably be talking amongst themselves or to your friend/friends if you’re with any) and give a slight smile before looking back at your target. This jackhammers a sense of competition into the subconscious mind of the girl you’re really interested in and immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.
2. Casually make physical contact with her friends more than her. For example, touch them on the side of their arm to get their attention or when laughing and joking.
3. When sitting down or standing around talking as a group, face slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the direction of one of her friends more than her.
Using deflection theory to challenge a girl you’re interested in’s ego and therefore make her want you more is just one psychological technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine it with others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in ways most men have and never will experience. You can be the guy that gets the girl!
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This doesn’t happen because you aren’t her type or just because sometimes these things happen (or don’t) – there’s a different, special reason the girl you’re interested in doesn’t appear to be interested in you and it’s got a lot to do with psychology and social standing. You see, when you show you’re interested in a good-looking girl who’s with her friends, you inadvertently bump up her ego and feeling of self-worth. She knows you’ve chosen and are most interested in her and likes this feeling of elevated importance. However, she also knows that if she reacts by becoming really flirty and obviously attracted to YOU, she’ll lose the higher social value she has over her friends (probably the reason you targeted her in the first place), so she therefore maintains her unattainable, “I’m a bit too good for you” status.
However, you can blow this problem out of the water by using DEFLECTION THEORY. You turn the situation on its head and reverse the psychology of your target female by deflecting your attention AWAY from her and ONTO one or more of her friends. When you show her friends (who have lower social value/worth than your target female) more attention and affection, you challenge her ego. So, in an effort to regain her superiority in the hierarchy of her circle of friends, the girl you’re really interested in will subconsciously invest much MORE interest in you by flirting and being playful. As so many women do, she gives into wanting what she feels she cannot have – and, of course, you’ll be happy to have her. She is, after all, the hottest of the group and the one you wanted in the first place. Here’s how to deflect your attention onto one of her friends to make her (the girl you want) feel as if her ego has been challenged and thus make her feel an instant and undeniable desire to get your attention and “win” you back.
1. Use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls. However, when you’re talking to your target female, occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls (who will probably be talking amongst themselves or to your friend/friends if you’re with any) and give a slight smile before looking back at your target. This jackhammers a sense of competition into the subconscious mind of the girl you’re really interested in and immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.
2. Casually make physical contact with her friends more than her. For example, touch them on the side of their arm to get their attention or when laughing and joking.
3. When sitting down or standing around talking as a group, face slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the direction of one of her friends more than her.
Using deflection theory to challenge a girl you’re interested in’s ego and therefore make her want you more is just one psychological technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine it with others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in ways most men have and never will experience. You can be the guy that gets the girl!
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